I can’t tell you what a relief it has been to work with someone who has such an amazing gift for seeing through the bullshit…. reflecting it back with compassion while offering support & empowerment.
Jill D.Ohio
“I am a relational trauma detective. I use my gift of second sight and clinical psychotherapy skills to glean an understanding of what’s really happening (or what really happened) in your relationship(s) and/or family of origin. Once we get that history straight, we can begin connecting with your true and authentic sense of self-worth.”
—Luisa Kolker MA LPCC
Luisa has a Masters Degree in Counseling Psychology from Southwestern College in Santa Fe, New Mexico. She is a licensed psychotherapist (LPCC) in the state of New Mexico and has post-graduate training in DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy), psychodrama and in 12-step recovery models.
As a referring therapist for The Meadows treatment center in Wickenburg, AZ, Luisa has been trained in the family-of-origin emotional trauma resolution model of Pia Mellody, and for several years she participated in ongoing case-consultation with Pia Mellody (author of “Facing Codependence” and “Facing Love Addiction”).
INDIVIDUAL THERAPY
Therapy sessions* re-establish a connection between body, mind, and spirit, embracing the maxim that depression, addictive patterns and other symptoms are adaptations to a loss of connection with one’s own inherent worth and connection with spirit. When there are lost, exiled or unknown parts of one’s inner self, these become relegated to a person’s unconscious. This shadow material has a tendency to make itself known through seemingly unrelated external events, such as illnesses, interpersonal difficulties, and other events.
The goal of relational psychotherapy is to develop emotional resilience and develop a conscious relationship your authentic self. This intimacy with your self ultimately expresses through a new ability to be relational (rather than reactive) with others. Your experience of life becomes a reflection of your self-respect, emotional maturity, and self-love, rather than a reflection of unresolved shame and pain.
The relational-mysticism psychotherapy process is a soul journey in which we’ll work together to help you strengthen your emotional, spiritual and behavioral skills.
COUPLES COUNSELING
I work with couples who are committed to taking personal responsibility for themselves as individuals and are ready to look at emotional and energetic patterns that underlie the challenging aspects of their relationship.
Optimally, each of you has already done your own personal therapy work and have developed the maturity and resilience to go to a deeper level with your healing together as a couple.
I’ll work with you both to identify, understand, and disentangle the archetypal themes and storylines that are being recycled in your relationship, so that new vitality and skillful honesty may be liberated.
I recommend four sessions for the initial work of gaining clarity about relevant themes and repetitive patterns. My goal is to create a roadmap for you moving forward and to begin clearing habitual emotional residue so you can see more clearly where you’ve been and where you want to go.
(Please note that I do not take insurance.)
It is my pleasure and honor to offer a respectful container for Immigrant, BIPOC and LGBTQ+ folks.
*Appointments available via Zoom or phone.
If you’re experiencing a life-threatening emergency, please call 911 or the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988, or use these resources to get immediate help.
