Click HERE to listen to Luisa’s radio interview on June 13, 2013 with Carey Benenson Taussig on “Balance Point” on KVSF Radio (101.5 FM).
“We hold an intent now to return to love, cooperation and respect as the guiding principles of our lives here on this blessed Earth.” —Luisa Kolker
We hold an intent for rain in Northern New Mexico and wherever else on the planet it is needed. And wherever rain is not needed (some places need not to have rain right now), we pray for rain of the spiritual variety—the spiritual rain that cleanses, heals and purifies.
We hold an intent for the restoration of balance and nourishment—physical/emotional/mental/spiritual—for all beings (plant, mineral, animal, human) in all the worlds of Grandmother Earth.
The restoration of Balance & Nourishment for All Beings begins with us humans, as we are the ones whose actions and inactions have resulted in the soul-sickness on this planet.
There are ways in which we have harmed the planet and ourselves AND we have the ability to repair this harm.
We hold an intent now to return to love, cooperation and respect as the guiding principles of our lives here on this blessed Earth.
Please join us and invite your friends, wherever you are. Whoever you are and wherever you are, we are made of the same stardust, rain, earth and sunlight. Your presence and your love make a difference in this world.
To join “The Five-Minute Rain Prayer” click here: https://www.facebook.com/events/568972793147417/
[Note: Last week I blogged about the "Five-Minute Rain Prayer." The blog article above is an articulation of the intentions and core-values of our weekly five-minute gathering on the inner-planes on Sundays at noon US Mountain Time.]
This is the longest day of the year, representing the light of consciousness at its full power. In our annual Summer Solstice gathering here in Santa Fe tonight, we are ceremonializing and optimizing the energies of solstice to liberate parts of our inner selves (and therefore, parts of the macrocosm of human consciousness) from the darkness of exclusion.
To the extent that we exclude our own joy and inherent self-worth from expressing in our individual lives, we will consciously or unconsciously diminish and marginalize the joy and worth of others.
As we become more removed from the natural world outside us, we also become distanced from the naturalness and the wild and free places in our own beings. This entrainment to the world of the mind and the world of doing creates a mass-consciousness trance that tells us that to be joyful is shameful, that to be passionately awake in our bodies in our sexuality is shameful.
Tonight, as we connect with the illuminating and awakening powers of sun and fire, we have an opportunity to meet with the spirit of our own true natures—our naturalness. Through the energies of solstice, we are able to drop into the dimensions of the Timeless—where time stands still. Solstice means that moment when the sun apparently pauses in its movement. That pause on the inner planes grants us a meeting with the aspects of ourselves that are already fully-blossomed and awakened.
Today, at midsummer and solstice, let us harvest the light of the sun outside of us so that we may relate more consciously with and welcome the spark, fire and light of our inherent worth, our goodness, our joy, our pleasure.
And, most importantly, may the light of solstice provide a beacon with which to take the next, first step in expressing our light in service of all beings throughout space and time.
Summer Solstice is really mid-summer, not the beginning of summer in the Celtic calendar. After this evening, the days will begin shortening again.
There are many meanings attributed to this time of solar ripeness—many astrological attributions, many New Age theories.
To learn what this Solstice is about for you, take a few moments to get still. Breathe into your lower body (from your waist down into your energy roots in the earth) and into your back body (from your spine back behind your physical body).
Hold an intent in your womb-space or belly to merge with the Sun. Breathe into the Universe that is inside of you.
Ask your inner self:
• What is my current relationship with my ability to shine my light out into the world?
• What aspects of my self do I withhold from the light?
• Where may I be more generous with myself and others?
Then, ceremonialize your intention to acknowledge the energies of solstice. While a ceremony describes your overall intent to bridge the worlds of spirit and human concerns, rituals are the various actions within a ceremony that concretize your specific intentions so they may be known to our conscious minds and to the worlds of spirit.
One solstice ritual you might practice today (or tomorrow, Friday, is fine, too) is one of “dissolution and manifestation.” More »
You’ve probably had this experience: You’re anxious or you’re angry or you’re lonely and you want not to feel that way. Right now. So, with a sense of restlessness and agitation and maybe an inner declaration of “I can’t stand this sensation for one more minute!”— you jump immediately into action. You do whatever it takes to move away from the almost-unbearable reality of that overwhelming emotion.
What’s the Big Hurry?
The hallmark of an addictive, compulsive process is that there is a sense of urgency. There is a sense of being in a hurry to find relief: “I have to have a drink now.” ”I have to release this sexual tension now.” (Anger and loneliness often masquerade as sexual tension and excitement.) “I have to move away from this discomfort now.”
And, if that immediate obedience to your emotional discomfort becomes a habit, that habit can, over time, become an addictive pattern. You’re angry: so, you lash out at someone, or you drink an “adult beverage” or smoke weed. You’re anxious: so you go shopping for something you don’t need or that’s not in your budget. You’re lonely: so you temporarily boost your serotonin levels with a pint of Hagen Dazs. Or you sit at your computer and distract yourself with online pornography.
Medicating vs. Relating to Your Emotions
You’ve managed to medicate the emotion, but you’ve also managed to abandon a part of your inner self (what I call your “Inner Community”) that needed you to connect and be relational with him or her. After either numbing-out (Hagen Dazs) or distracting yourself by getting emotionally-high (e.g., creating emotional drama) as a way of distracting from your emotions, you will crash. It might take an hour or it might take a couple years. But, you will crash. And you will crash right back into the original emotional state, except now, because this part of your self has been abandoned by you, you crash down to a more intensely painful place than where you started.
Emotions are Addictive
Emotions are the raw stuff of our neuro-chemical responses to people, places and things. And sometimes those emotional reactions reflect our personal history of neglect, abandonment or abuse. Emotions, without the mediating influence of our witnessing consciousness remain primal, isolated and as random as a downed power line in a storm, sputtering, sparking and whipping around uncontrollably. Without some means of being authentically connected with oneself, without all that life-force energy being channeled in some relational way, things can get out of control. In fact, your whole life can get out of control.
Feelings are Relational
For the purposes of this discussion, here is my definition of feelings. My feelings are what happen when I consciously More »
A few weeks ago, my friend George Adelo mentioned on Facebook that he was going to meditate for five intention-filled minutes for the manifestation of rain here in dusty, dry Northern New Mexico. He invited his friends to join him in that meditation from wherever they happened to be at noon that coming Sunday.
We’ve had several wildfires that for several weeks have enveloped Santa Fe and surrounding areas in an alarming slurry of smoke and fire retardant chemicals. Feelings of anxiety and frustration were becoming central to most conversations in our town.
When I read George’s brief mention of a group prayer for rain, I knew that this was something that I would be doing, too. I’d been hungering for a way to connect and feel a sense of community while having to close all the windows in my house and run my air-filter machine 24/7. I asked him if he’d like for me to organize the 5-Minute Prayer for Rain as an event that others could join and for which there would be the cyber-structure of a Facebook event page. George said, “Yes, please!”
So, I created the 5-Minute Rain Prayer as an event page on Facebook. I invited lots of people and encouraged them to invite their friends, too. It didn’t matter where they were: the event description invited these prayers to extend to all beings, everywhere, who have a need for rain or other kinds of physical or spiritual nourishment.
Week One: There were 150 of us who prayed, meditated and held an intention for rain. And that week, there was a tiny little spit of rain here in the southeast area of Santa Fe. Really not much, but it was wet. It also rained a bit in town. More »
Note: This is the original, unedited version of an article I was invited to write for The Santa Fe Reporter’s “Annual Manual,” a guide for residents and visitors to Santa Fe. Though the published version has been beautifully edited, there are some additional moments in the original version that you will hopefully find interesting. To see the published article, click HERE or click on the image of the article below.
Some years back, before the labyrinth on Museum Hill became a permanent installation, it was an informal earth-formed hieroglyphic of dirt and stone. In contrast with the orderly, angled museums in its environs, the labyrinth was round, mysterious and womblike. My son, then in elementary school, and I would walk over there on warm summer evenings through the arroyo behind the Folk Art Museum, and when we arrived, we had a silent ritual.
At the threshold to the labyrinth, Daniel would make a formal bow and then, like a human-sized praying mantis, he’d practice his karate katas in slow-motion, like a meditation, through its serpentine pathways. I sat to the side and while I watched him with a soft focus, in the periphery of my vision were the majestic Jemez Mountains to the west and the soft, undulating foothills of the Sangres to the northeast.
I grew up in the suburbs of Washington, DC. By my early-twenties I felt I would come unhinged if I More »
I haven’t wanted to write about this “out loud,” meaning I haven’t known how to talk with others outside my personal intimate circle about what happened to me some years ago.
I’ve written to my own self about it. In fact, I saved my own life by writing hundreds of pages, thousands of words about my soul-crushing experience of falling in love with someone who was beautiful, with a soft voice and the most intense personal radiance of anyone I’ve ever known. Sometimes light is blinding. And sometimes, due to processing experiences through the filter of our wounds and vulnerabilities, that light can seduce us away from that which is in darkness in our own selves.
In my Transformation 3 workshop, I teach about the characteristics of love and sex addiction. It’s rare that I meet or even work with someone who I might, from a clinical psychological perspective, diagnose as having those types of addictive compulsions. The reason I feel passionate about sharing this information with my students and clients is this: The compulsion to medicate inner emptiness with compulsive fantasies and the acting-out of those fantasies is a culture-wide problem. The inability to be truly intimate—emotionally—is epidemic. We live in a highly sexualized society: Children (especially little girls) are sexualized at an early age; men and women of all ages perceive their value based on
[NOTE: For some reason, my WordPress site sent out this unfinished draft of my blog article. I will finish writing the article soon, so please consider this the first installment! Best wishes, Luisa.]
After having explored intimate relationship in many, if not most of its permutations, I have, in my golden years, arrived at a strong definition of infidelity, and it is this: If I say/do/email-something to or with another person that I would not say/do/email in front of my significant other, then I am being unfaithful to the trust between us.
Why do I mention this? Because from time to time I receive private email messages, on Facebook and off, that are sexually or romantically charged. Most of the time, the messages are from people who know that I am in a committed relationship. I find this to be, at best, a misunderstanding of who I am and what I am about. At worst, I find it to be willfully offensive.
Yes, I am spontaneous, friendly, sexually comfortable with who I am and playful, passionate and feisty (with men and women) on Facebook and in my personal life. However, I am not seductive. To me seduction carries with it an agenda and an ulterior motive. Seduction involves secrecy and it usually rides rough-shod over the hearts of emotionally-invested others.
While there are some sacred, private dimensions of my life that are only for me, my partner and a few others, I take pleasure in being transparent in how I share about myself with friends, family, clients, etc.
I am not about secrecy, seduction and emotional/sexual/romantic intrigue. I’ve been there, done that, been burned by that and hurt others with that.
I choose transparency.
Article about Luisa by James Michael Nolan, President of Southwestern College Graduate School for Counseling & Art Therapy
(To see the original webpage for this article about Luisa, click HERE.)
By James Michael Nolan
“Luisa Kolker graduated from Southwestern College, where she studied Counseling. Interestingly, I met her through Social Media, where I became aware of this really funny, transparent and seemingly wise woman who was doing Shamanic work in Santa Fe. I knew she was a graduate of the school and thought it would be great to meet her and find out about her experience at the College.
I have to be honest. In a town like Santa Fe, everybody contends that they are shamans, or energy workers, or a variety of other visionary healers. I am naturally skeptical about these self-designations, so when I went to meet Luisa, I thought, Oh, we will see if she seems like the real deal. Maybe yes, maybe no. I tend to get quick hits on this one. I have no way of knowing if the hits are accurate, but I will tell you they are quick gut hits, quick intuitions.